‘The Secret Loves of Geek Girls‘ is a brilliant anthology. It contains various stories and comics detailing various authors‘ different experiences with love, and covers such a wide variety of subject topics.
What I really liked about this anthology was not all of them were about romantic love – stories about love for other stories and characters was a major theme in most of them. I felt this would give younger readers the right impression of romantic love – yeah it’s nice to have someone you can talk to and do things with, but it’s not the be all and end all if you don’t have a partner! That is something that young adult novels fall short of most of the time. It gives younger readers the completely wrong impression of how to approach their own lives – so many girls I knew growing up placed such an emphasis on getting a boyfriend that they either forgot how to live on their own and be secure in themselves, or thought that they couldn’t live a full life without a partner to validate their existence. This makes me so angry!!
Some stories did cover romantic love, and the idea that because us geek girls were the weird ones growing up it doesn’t mean we won’t find love. These authors’ experiences show that there are people out there just as weird as us, and that we shouldn’t feel ashamed of who we are and what we love doing with our spare time. Some stories that would have appealed to me when I was younger were some that reassured the reader that just because they might not be successful in love just yet didn’t mean they were doomed to a life of spinsterhood. Others also dealt with sexuality and gender, and various authors’ different experiences with coming to terms with or trying to figure out whether they were pansexual, demisexual, lesbian, asexual or polyamory – this really made ‘The Secret Loves of Geek Girls’ unique. It covered such a wide variety of topics that something in here is guaranteed to appeal to everyone.
‘The Secret Loves of Geek Girls‘ gives geek girls such a positive message to take away from the various stories! Not to feel pressured to follow what other people are doing, when to accept defeat and admit “This relationship isn’t for me” (Something that would have come in handy for me a year ago!!), or to feel brave and take risks in letting people into your life. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have a partner, but it’s never good to shut yourself off from people entirely.
I would give it a 4/5 – most of these stories really resonated with me, and I found at least a few to recommend to friends. Plus I think this is definitely the right kind of thing for younger readers to pick up and take away a positive message from – to be comfortable in your own skin and do what feels right to you!
Just a snippet from one of the comics which was DEFINITELY me in school and had me laughing so hard when I read this one: